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YES Pain YES Gain




‘No Pain, No Gain’ has been a rather common heard idiom that someone will say while encouraging others to be more open to challenges and try new things so that more opportunities and experiences can be gained.

This is ME from The Greatest Showman

          I have always been so open to new experiences that my life motto is “LAI!” to every challenge or rants my friends threw at me. “Lai” means ‘come on’ in Cantonese. Like, how I sometimes call out my poop in the toilet. The irrational and reckless Vivian will not consider the consequences and say YES to every fcuking dare people threw at me. This can lead to some really terrible consequences. Yet, I never did learn my lesson. Because of something I hold dear to, NO REGRET!
          I led a really adrenaline-rushing year in 2019, because that year the rebellious, egoistic, careless monster was controlling my whole body and soul. I had the wildest experiences that resulted a lot of disappointment, sadness, painstakingly tremendous horrifying experience in my 2019.
          But, there’s one thing I will tell people when I reflected it back. I told everyone that even though how hurtful and horrendous those incidents, I would proudly tell people that I have no REGRET.
Yes, I won’t regret every fcuking decision I made back then. It made me who I am today. Surely, what I decided for every turning point, I would still rationally think about all the possibilities and risk that it portrays. I only do something in the condition that no one will get hurt by the process of it. The result, whereas, everyone has to bear with it, as good choices can lead to bad results due to the unexpected changes happened in between.
          Daring, adventurous and fearless is my iconic personality. I have always been that nagging friend who keep bugging them to try new things. “Never try, never know.” This is the non-debatable rule how my world works.
You think bad, bad things come. You think good, bad things still come. You think nothing, but you DO SOMETHING, at least something good/bad will happen. The chances are you will eventually gain something out of the pain you deal with.
          Perception is important. No one tells you to think there is always unicorn or rainbow-themed castle be there waiting for you. You just need to suck the good out of the bad, even if it only has 0.00000000000000000000000000001%. It’s there. You just have to see through it.


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